90/10 Principle

Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down.

The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don’t let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let’s use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “It’s ok honey, you just need,to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, don’t be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don’t have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, nd do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose
nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged

You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It will change your life.

Thanks- GConnect

Anger

Different Forms Of Anger
Depending on our basic belief system, past experiences and perception (understanding) of the present situations we are in, anger takes different forms, which emerge in our mind and get communicated to others through our
behaviour:
 1. Irritation
You create this when day-to-day events don’t happen fast enough e.g. your flight gets delayed, you are made to wait in a queue, etc.
2. Frustration
You create this when events don’t occur as per your desires and
expectations.
3. Grudge
You create this when you believe that you have been wronged by someone in the past.
4. Resentment
You create this towards those that you think have insulted or offended you or when you are jealous of someone.
5. Hatred
You create this following your deep disapproval of another’s actions.
6. Rage
You create this following the build up of anger normally in response to others’ actions, which you label as obstructive or interfering, e.g. road rage.
Life will never provide Warranties & Guarantees (in fact absolutely NO guarantee haa..haa..haa)
It can only provide Possibilities & Opportunities.
It’s up to us to convert them into lead a happy life
The best gift is forgiveness

Natural Qualities and Acquired Qualities

When we look at ourselves from outside we can only see the surface of what we have become. We can’t see or perhaps cannot even imagine the inner core (center), which, like in the example of the coconut, is the only part that really can nourish us and give us energy. The shell (in the case of the coconut) serves as a protection but we certainly can’t eat it.
In our case, the core (center) consists of natural or inner qualities such as peace, love, power, truth, happiness and so on. The shell is the ego which consists of features or personality characteristics we have acquired through the journey of our lives such as experiences,  abilities,
memories, learning, habits and beliefs – in short, all that we are referring to when we say: ‘I am so-and-so, from such-and-such family or organization or city’.
While we are limited to these acquired characteristics, our true qualities remain inaccessible. Through deep reflection and meditation we can break the shell and activate our inner qualities from which our values or principles are born.

Giving Up Revenge

When we feel hurt by another person we feel the desire to take revenge. Even though we know it will not bring about a solution to the situation, or heal (improve) the relationship, we still want, and feel justified in wanting, and taking, revenge. The illusion (false belief) behind the desire to hurt another with our anger is that they were the ones who hurt us. No they didn’t. No one hurts us but we use others to hurt ourselves. When we blame others we conveniently avoid taking responsibility for our feelings and actions. So there is no need for anger.
Question: When was the last time you thought someone had hurt you?
Reflection: How did you see the other person, how did you see and understand their actions (i.e. what did you do with them in your mind that caused you anger)?
Action: Imagine the situation happened again – how would you see the situation (interpret their actions) differently, so that you do not create anger in response?

Total Quality Mind (TQM)

At all times in our life, during every minute, we are creators of thoughts. Thoughts are seeds. Our future or destiny is merged within our thoughts.  As soon as we put our thoughts into words, which others hear, we plant seeds in the minds of others. If our words are positive, positive seeds are planted in others’ minds; if they are negative, negative seeds are planted. These thoughts (seeds) are then sustained and empowered (strengthened) by others when they think about them and speak about them to others. As a result of
which they become reality. This is why we have to be very careful what we say, because the more people hear what we speak and give life or energy to our words, the sooner the reality (positive or negative) will come to life.

In short the nature of our thoughts and words are instrumental in shaping our future or destiny.
Question: What are the two things you have recently said in the office or at home that you would not like to become real?

Reflection: Can you think of two things you have thought and said in the past, which have become a reality.

Action: Now take all four examples from above and check what you could have said instead.
Ideas are nobody’s monopoly. We all have the power to think, always think positively, create ideas and convert them into action.

Choosing Values (Principles)

What you value is what you care about the most, at any given moment. And what you care about the most is what gets your time and attention most, and very often first. Most people are not fully aware of their values (principles) and very few ‘consciously’ choose their values. When we do not align our actions with our consciously chosen values, it means we are aligning our actions with someone else’s values. When you consciously choose your values carefully you choose how you will spend the time of your life.
The result? You will feel you are in control of your life. Then set your goals according to your values, and then your destiny will be back in your hands.
Question: What do you deeply value in your life? Write a list of seven values and then prioritize them.
Reflection: What are your goals according to each of your key values and what can you see yourself doing to live in line with your chosen values?

Action: What will you do tomorrow to begin aligning your actions with your values (careful – better to take many small steps than try to make a big leap from where you are now to where you want to be)?

Think Positively

To experience peace is to be in one powerful stage. The more the thoughts we have, the lesser the peace that is experienced in the mind. When we are able to maintain a powerful thought throughout the day, whatever the situations come our way, we can experience constant peace.
Right in the morning let us take a thought that is positive and powerful. For example, ‘I am a powerful soul because I have the World Almighty Authority – the Supreme Soul as my
companion’ or ‘I am the luckiest soul in the universe’ or as something as simple as ‘I am a hopeful soul, the child of the Ocean of Love’.
Take any positive thought connected with the basic qualities of the soul – peace, bliss, love, purity, knowledge, power, joy. Whatever the situations we come across, let us emerge this thought and we will be able to maintain peace.
Positive thinkers will always have solution for everything in life. Think Positively and Live Happily!!!